So often when a brother comes along in a meek spirit teaching what the word of God says about the different roles of brothers and sisters in the home or among the local saints he is automatically marginalized as a legalist. Despite this Jesus still has a powerful testimony to the feminist influenced church today that would scoff at or dismiss the clear teachings of Gods word on this subject. They may try and explain away Paul’s epistles or say they are no longer culturally relevant. They may even suggested that Paul was speaking outside of Gods will when addressing the sisters being silent or not having authority in certain situations. They may accuse any brother who attempts to teach on the subject of trying to silence the sisters through a religious spirit. Yet what can be said when they look in the eyes of a sister who has submitted herself to Gods instruction in these things and is full of the joy of the Lord for it?
Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
Colossians 3:18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
1 Peter 3:1 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct…For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.
1 Timothy 2:11 Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.
Titus 2:4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
1 Corinthians 14:34 the women should keep silent in the churches. For they are not permitted to speak, but should be in submission, as the Law also says. If there is anything they desire to learn, let them ask their husbands at home. For it is shameful for a woman to speak in church. Or was it from you that the word of God came? Or are you the only ones it has reached? If anyone thinks that he is a prophet, or spiritual, he should acknowledge that the things I am writing to you are a command of the Lord. If anyone does not recognize this, he is not recognized.
Submitting to God’s word does not devalue sisters, make them second class citizens of heaven, or put them in bondage where they can not be used the way that the Holy Spirit wills to. A quiet and submissive sister is actually a powerful testimony to this lost generation and its worldly church that is hell bent on destroying God’s order on the earth. Of course these things must be worked out patiently, humbly, and cautiously by all brothers and sisters everywhere. They must be worked out prayerfully, in the whole council of the word of God, lest one verse from Corinthians is applied in an unrighteous manner, but they must be worked out by the grace of God. Brothers must be aware of the judgment they will receive if they go beyond Gods design in these things and become nicolatians in their own homes or the local church. Just as sisters are given Sarah (who obeyed Abraham, calling him lord) as an example, so brothers are given the Lord Jesus Christ as a servant leader to the church for their example.